Why CAn’t I stop people pleasing? breaking the addiction to saying “yes”
Do you ever wonder, “Why can’t I stop people-pleasing?” If you grew up with emotionally immature parents, chances are people-pleasing became your survival strategy. As an adult, it can leave you stuck in self-doubt, perfectionism, guilt, and relationships with emotionally unavailable partners. In this blog, I explore why people-pleasing starts in childhood, the hidden costs of constantly putting others first, and how therapy—including holistic approaches like mindfulness, somatic work, hypnotherapy, and ketamine-assisted therapy—can help you set boundaries, trust your intuition, and finally feel good enough without having to earn love.
Your Parents Couldn’t Handle Big Emotions—Now You Can’t Stop People-Pleasing
When your parents couldn’t handle big emotions, you may have learned to people‑please, shrink yourself, or feel not enough—even years later. Explore how childhood trauma from emotionally immature parents often shows up as anxiety, perfectionism, and low self‑esteem in adulthood. You’ll discover how trauma therapy can help you reconnect with your worth, dismantle people‑pleasing patterns, and heal the emotional wounds that were never addressed.
