For a Life Free From Pressures
Therapy for perfectionists
What it could feel like to stop living under pressure
You sleep more deeply.
Your mind isn’t racing through unfinished tasks or replaying conversations at night. Your body actually settles when you rest.
You speak more freely at work. You share ideas without rehearsing them ten times first. You don’t need the perfect wording to trust yourself.
Decisions feel lighter. You choose, act, and move on — without spiraling into second‑guessing.
You enjoy things while they’re happening. Not once everything is done. Not once you’ve earned it. Now.
You still care. You’re still thoughtful, capable, and conscientious. But your worth is no longer on the line.
This is what becomes possible when perfectionism no longer runs the show.
Most perfectionists aren’t focused on what’s perfect. They’re oriented toward what’s imperfect — what needs work, correction, or improvement.
Therapy offers the opportunity to shift that orientation. From pressure to presence. From constant self-correction to self-trust.
A different way of being with yourself
Healing perfectionism isn’t about lowering your standards or becoming careless.
It’s about:
Letting your worth exist without performance
Allowing rest without guilt
Feeling internally safe even when things are unfinished
Learning to relate to yourself with steadiness instead of pressure
It’s about giving yourself the opportunity to be seen — not for what you produce, but for who you are.
Do You Feel Like You’re Never Doing Enough?
You hold it together so well that no one realizes how heavy it is.
You’re productive, composed, even kind — but inside, you’re exhausted from trying to prove you’re not failing.
You might find yourself:
Tying your sense of worth to productivity, achievement, or being good
Replaying conversations like a loop, analyzing the way you responded
Triple-checking texts and add emojis and explanation points so you don’t sound “too direct.”
Cleaning the kitchen before bed so you can earn the right to rest.
Feeling guilt or anxiety when resting
Needing to earn approval, stability, or a sense of control
Feeling a wave of guilt when someone is disappointed — even if it’s not your fault.
Dreading feedback because even gentle correction feels like rejection.
Easily finding what you need to work on, but struggle to celebrate and enjoy your achievements
How Can Therapy Help You Release the Need to Be Perfect?
You’ve read the books. You’ve done the affirmations.
You tell yourself, “I know I shouldn’t be so hard on myself,” right before criticizing yourself for not getting better fast enough.
In therapy, you’ll learn how to:
Recognize when your “inner critic” is actually a scared protector.
Notice the moment your chest tightens before you overexplain yourself.
Slow your thoughts long enough to hear what your body is asking for.
Rest without guilt — and trust that the world won’t collapse if you do.
Reconnect with intuition instead of overanalyzing every decision.
Create boundaries that come from self-respect, not self-defense.
Depending on your needs, this work can include:
Holistic psychotherapy to integrate mind, body, and spirit.
Hypnotherapy to access subconscious roots and re-pattern self-doubt.
Walk & talk therapy in nature to ground and reconnect to your body.
Ketamine-assisted psychotherapy (KAP) for deeper neural and emotional release when appropriate.
Healing perfectionism isn’t about lowering your standards — it’s about releasing the fear that your worth depends on them.
Hi, I’m Citlali “Lali”
My work is rooted in a simple belief: everyone deserves the opportunity to be seen and to live a fully authentic life — not just on the outside, but internally, in how they relate to themselves.
I work primarily with women who learned early on that being capable, responsible, and self‑controlled was the safest way to move through the world. Many of the perfectionists I work with look successful on paper, yet live with constant Self‑pressure, Self‑doubt, and a sense that they’re never quite enough.
My role is not to push you to become better or more optimized. It’s to help you experience safety, worth, and steadiness without having to earn it — so you can live from self‑trust instead of self‑correction.
Therapy that doesn’t try to ‘fix’ you
In my work, we don’t try to eliminate perfectionism overnight or shame it away.
We get curious about it.
We explore:
Where your standards came from
What your nervous system is trying to prevent
How self-criticism became a form of protection
What it would feel like to experience safety without achievement
This work is about shifting your internal orientation — from constant self-correction to self-trust.
From proving your worth to inhabiting it.
Where Does Perfectionism Really Come From?
You weren’t born afraid of getting it wrong — you learned that mistakes came with a cost.
Maybe you had a parent whose moods changed without warning. Or one who only showed pride when you achieved something. Maybe life just felt safer when you were useful, quiet, or easy to be around.
So you became the responsible one. The emotional translator. The kid who made herself smaller so others could stay calm.
You might remember:
Holding your breath when your parent sighed — scanning for what you did wrong.
Being praised for “maturity” that was really hypervigilance.
Feeling like you had to parent your own parents.
Getting in trouble for “talking back” when you were just telling the truth.
Learning early that your needs were inconvenient.
Perfectionism grows from those early contracts: “If I make no mistakes, no one can leave. If I stay composed, no one will explode.”
But the cost is high — you end up living in survival mode, mistaking control for safety and burnout for belonging.
Healing means remembering you never had to earn love in the first place.
What Does Working Together Look Like?
Healing perfectionism asks for something most perfectionists resist — consistency without control.
That’s why therapy isn’t about fixing yourself faster; it’s about learning how to stay when the impulse is to flee, overwork, or disappear into caretaking.
When we work together, we move slowly enough for your nervous system to trust that change won’t cost you connection.
Here’s what that can look like:
Weekly sessions (45 minutes) where we build safety, insight, and real relational trust — the kind you didn’t get to experience growing up.
Hypnotherapy intensives (90–120 minutes) when you’re ready to drop beneath the surface and meet the parts of you that keep trying to earn love through perfection.
Walk & Talk therapy in nature in Northern Westchester — for when your healing feels clearer among trees than on a screen.
Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) for clients seeking deeper integration between mind, body, and soul.
Each path is different because your perfectionism has its own story — its own origin, its own triggers, its own way of trying to keep you safe.
This isn’t about one-size-fits-all healing; it’s about learning the unique language of your inner world and letting that guide the process.
You don’t need to know how to do it “right.” You just need to show up — imperfectly, fully, and ready to begin.
